Bookish Themed Hanukkah: Fourth Candle: Foregone Conclusion #eightcandlebooktag

December 25, 2019

 Celebrating a Bookish Hanukkah With Our Jewish Friends: Fourth Candle–Foregone Conclusion


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I’m linking up today and for the next few days with Davida at The Chocolate Lady’s Book Review Blog (information on the meme link up here) to celebrate a bookish Hanukkah with our Jewish friends.  #eightcandlebooktag  Join us! (find my first candle here, find my second candle here, third candle here)

Happy Hanukkah to my friends, followers, and book buddies who are celebrating!



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Fourth Candle: Foregone Conclusion

A book that you read that you knew you’d like or dislike before you began reading.

Are you drawn to certain genres or authors? If you’ve followed my reviews for a while, you know that Fredrik Backman is an auto-buy/auto-read author for me and it’s a foregone conclusion that I will like his work. However, what about other books by lesser-known or debut authors? How can I know I will like it before I’ve read it?

The first time I heard about The Dearly Beloved by Cara Wall, I knew I had to read it! The synopsis and early reviews sounded exactly like the type of book I love: an interesting premise, real-life family drama, complicated relationships, thought-provoking themes, and well written.

On the other hand, are there books I know I’ll dislike before I read them? The short answer is “yes” and I usually avoid reading them. I dislike dark, scary, horror, most magical realism and fantasy, paranormal, occult, witchcraft, most romcom (don’t @ me!), science fiction, time travel, unlikable characters behaving badly, and erotica. Because FOMO is real, I will give certain titles a chance (usually because of reviewers with similar tastes). Even though I might read a book from these genres, they are usually not among my favorite reads. One recent example is Recursion by Blake Crouch. I read it because of FOMO but I didn’t like it as much as others who love the science fiction genre. If there were a sequel, I wouldn’t read it, but I’m not unhappy I gave it a chance.

As I deliberately track genres and themes I like or dislike, I significantly raise the chances of my next read being satisfactory or even great.

For today’s prompt, I’m choosing to highlight a book that I knew I would like before I started reading it: The Dearly Beloved by Cara Wall. 

The Dearly Beloved

The following is my review of The Dearly Beloved that was published earlier on this blog:


Four very different individuals (two couples) navigate relationships, marriage, children, faith, career, ministry, crisis, joy, friendship, forgiveness, uncertainty, understanding, and heartbreak. The couples meet in the 1960s when the men, Charles and James, accept positions as co-pastors of the Third Presbyterian Church in Manhattan. The relationship between the couples is strained because the wives are polar opposites: Lily is a loner and an atheist and Nan values connection and is a devout Christian. In this tender character-driven story that covers decades of life, we also learn the backstory of each individual.

My Thoughts:

The most difficult books I review are those that I love, LOVE, L O V E. I think the connections we make with a book greatly affect our reactions and reviews, and this one checked all my boxes for an exceptional, memorable, and thoughtful read.

Ten Reasons Why I Love The Dearly Beloved:


Lily, Charles, Nan, and James are interesting, unique, dynamic, and thoughtful characters who wrestle with life, faith, marriage and family, career, community, friendship, compassion, heartbreak, and forgiveness. Every person faces challenges in life (marriage, career, friendship, etc), and the author explores how faith might or might not play a role in our individual lives by following these four diverse characters and their marriages over several decades.


I love the compelling premise that one minister’s wife is an atheist. I had a little difficulty understanding that Charles in light of his “calling” would choose to marry an atheist. He had to know how complicated his life would become! At first, I questioned the likeability of Lily, a complicated and complex person. By story’s end, her sacrifice, her honesty and willingness to support her husband and her friends, and her determination and commitment in facing difficult circumstances won me over.


This is one beautifully written story and, in my opinion, it is an example of literary fiction which many find difficult to define. Briefly, this is how I think of literary fiction: 1. character-driven, 2. masterful writing, 3. focus on “meaning of life” themes. A Gentleman in Moscow and Crossing to Safety come to mind as two examples.

I love words, metaphors, and unique turns of phrases, and I was captivated by the exquisite writing throughout the story. This is one example (among hundreds) of a sentence that caught my attention:

“While she was away, they had been able to forget the accident. When she returned, they had been forced to pick up their rakes of grief and drag them along the ground.”


Themes make or break a story for me, and The Dearly Beloved explores an ambitious collection of themes/topics including atheism, church committees/church politics, music, academics, call to ministry, infertility, an autism diagnosis, crisis of faith, the expectations of a minister’s daughter, the grief when orphaned as a teenager, the role and expectations of a minister’s wife, the work of the church, doubt, falling in love with a person who doesn’t share your faith, friendship, leadership, community work, and social justice.


As a person of faith, I appreciate the honest reflection on the importance of the role of faith in the life experiences of our four main characters. When the characters face challenging circumstances, they explore their faith as they deal with doubt and ask difficult questions. This is not a book about religion and it doesn’t proselytize. I can add that faith in a larger concept is also explored: faith in marriage, friendship, and community. I think you can enjoy and appreciate this book even if you are not a religious person or part of the Presbyterian denomination. If you are a person of faith, you may actually be frustrated that the author doesn’t do more.


I love the exploration of friendship within these pages. A lifetime of friendship isn’t always easy and at times is challenging and stretching and sacrificial. Circumstances throw these couples together, commitment forces them to resolve their issues, and acceptance, forgiveness, and joy are the rewards.


Community is an important focus of The Dearly Beloved: the church community as well as the larger community. James, especially, exhibits a strong sense of social justice and desires to fix the wrongs of the world; in fact, this is a huge part of why he chose to become a minister. The educational services he is able to organize for children in the community with disabilities is a poignant part of the story.


Even though this happens to fall at number eight, it’s actually one of the things I love most about this story. I greatly appreciate that the author allows readers to draw their own conclusions! I’m a bit weary of authors’ heavy-handed agendas and pedantic restatements. Reading this gentle story is a welcome reprieve from all that. Cara Wall simply and even-handedly presents the story, the issues, and the characters. She is not negative, judgmental, opinionated, or critical. The readers do the hard work of forming opinions and drawing conclusions. For me, this is a quality of an exceptional writer! It is refreshing!


Making connections with the reading makes for a rich reading experience. Throughout the reading, I thought of different people in my life who are similar in circumstances or beliefs to the four characters. As a minister’s daughter myself, I can certainly relate to Nan and her experiences. Because I have also wrestled with faith, I could relate at some point to most of the questions posed by all the characters. The author caused me to care deeply for the characters, their relationships, and their well being.


The partnership between Charles and James, the co-pastors, was beautiful and inspiring. Even though they had different philosophies, visions, and gifts, they supported each other. They encouraged, sacrificed, exhorted, and believed in the other and did not undermine, criticize, or “unfriend.” It would have been easy for them to divide that church.

“Best Reads of the Year” List

As soon as I turned the last page of The Dearly Beloved, I  was tempted to start at the beginning for an immediate reread! I resisted that urge, but it is a book that I will reread one day. I also wish this were a book I could read again for the first time. These are indications of a five-star, memorable read! Books do not have to be perfect to earn five stars. For me, it’s more about the emotional impact. I was completely engaged with this  story from the first page, and my reaction of “Wow!” seals the deal for one of the best reads of the year.

Recommended: I’m wholeheartedly insisting recommending that you pick up this book today! It checked all my boxes for a great read. There is no objectional content or language, so it would be suitable as a gift for a wide variety of readers. I’ve already put this on my best of the year list, on my lifetime favorites list, and on my “You Must Read This” list. The Dearly Beloved is highly recommended for fans of literary fiction and for those who appreciate a quiet, character-driven story with compelling and thoughtful opportunities for reflection. It would be a wonderful book club selection because of a variety of discussion topics.

Content Advisory: One couple experiences fears of infertility and a child receives a diagnosis of severe autism. In addition, one teenage character loses both parents in a tragic car accident.

Today Show interview with author Cara Wall.

My Rating: 5+ stars


The Dearly Beloved

The Dearly Beloved Information

Meet the Author, Cara Wall

Cara WallCara Wall is a graduate of the Iowa Writer’s Workshop and Stanford University. While at Iowa, Cara taught fiction writing in the undergraduate creative writing department as well as at the Iowa Young Writer’s Studio in her capacity of founder and inaugural director. She went on to teach middle school English and history and has been published by Glamour, Salon, and the San Francisco Chronicle. She lives in New York City with her family.


Have you read The Dearly Beloved or is it on your TBR?


I have finished my Fall TBR!
(just in time to begin my Winter TBR!)

Winter 2019 TBR

My Nonfiction November Posts:
2019 Nonfiction Reads
Nonfiction and Racial Injustice
Nonfiction/Fiction Pairings
Favorite Nonfiction Books
2020 Nonfiction TBR
Finding Chika by Mitch Albom

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  1. I just finished this book this week and simply could not have loved it more. I knew it would be a good fit thanks to recommendations from trusted readers (in fact you were the first of many to tell me about this book!), but I had no idea how deep of an impression it would leave. I resonate with all of your thoughts . I think my favorite aspect of the book was the nuanced exploration of faith in a book that isn’t explicitly Christian. I also really appreciated the autism story thread and the examination of how a crisis like this one affects different individuals so differently. My only complaint was that we didn’t get more from these couples. I want to know what happened in the years between the last chapter and the epilogue. Do you think Lily and Charles has more children? None are mentioned but I hope they did. Same for Nan and James. Gosh, I would love a sequel!

    • I agree! I wanted more details about the rest of their lives in the epilogue! For a secular book, the exploration of faith was just right I thought! Yes… the autism thread was heartbreaking….especially the treatment in the 70s 💔 I identified with each of the characters at different points of the story! I’m so glad you loved it too!

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